Today is February 14th or as many people have nicknamed it over the years, Valentines Day. For those in relationships it usually means you celebrate the day together and usually with some chocolate or a nice card or as in our case – A chill evening out. If you happen to be single on this day, nothing really changes except for the company. However spoiling yourself rotten with the excuse of Valentines Day and single life to slug at any one opposing you, is still very much just as enjoyable as celebrating it with a special someone. Maybe even more since you won’t have to share!
Now throughout the years I have gotten a tonne of messages asking me how to get “a perfect relationship like mine” and how Sean and I are pure “relationship goals”. So I thought that since Valentines Day is a celebration of love and romance across the world, that it would be appropriate to throw in my two cents when it comes to relationships and relationship advice.
Now mind you that these are just my personal thoughts on the matter and I am speaking in broad general terms. Everyone is different so don’t read this thinking that if you follow all these steps it’ll all magically work out. I would also like to remind you that what you see of Sean and mine’s relationship is what we choose to show you. No one is perfect and everyone will have disagreements once in a while, so of course we do to. It’s just part of being human! So with that out of the way, let’s take a look at my top five tips to help maintain a healthy relationship.
Honesty. You’ve heard this one a thousand times over but it is really the only way to go. Honesty is the foundation of most things in life so it goes without saying that it should be at the core of every healthy relationship. I think if you can be honest with each other, admit fault when you see it then there is not much standing in the way for you!
Communication, is probably the most important one on my list. If you can’t communicate effectively then there is no hope in hell that it’ll ever work out for you both. Practicing talking to each other about your thoughts and problems will help you both in the long run. I know it can be very difficult but it is such an essential part of being close to someone. There is just no way around it. If you don’t communicate then you will never know where you both stand when issues arise. Now I’m not saying that you should bring up every little thing that pops up! Sometimes you yourself need to take a step back and reevaluate if the issue is actually worth bringing up. Maybe you can tackle it alone? Work on yourself and your communicative skills and work on figuring out what’s worth bringing up and what’s not.
Compromise. You’ve heard this one a thousand times as well but that’s only because it’s true. Compromise is a big part of life especially if you are sharing that life with another person. You simply can’t have your way ALL THE TIME but knowing when to make sacrifices and when to stand your ground is key!
Independence. Now this one is so SO important too! Once you fall in love you’ll want to spend all of your time together but remember that most people need space to just be themselves. You need to be able to let go off those bitter emotions when they don’t text back within 30 second. No one is required to spend all their time with each other so don’t expect them to either. Go do stuff that you enjoy by yourself and love that alone time! It’s good to be just you once in a while, that way you can learn to live with just yourself.
Have fun! Life is all about experiences and relationships are a definite part of that. They are a shared experience and if it doesn’t work out it’s not the end of the world. You may have to do some things different next time but don’t spend your time worrying about what could or could not happen and just enjoy the ride. Enjoy the people who you are with and treasure your memories with them because they will be with you forever. So just have fun!
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