Valentines Day Special: Five Tips To Help Maintain A Healthy Relationship

Today is February 14th or as many people have nicknamed it over the years, Valentines Day. For those in relationships it usually means you celebrate the day together and usually with some chocolate or a nice card or as in our case – A chill evening out. If you happen to be single on this day, nothing really changes except for the company. However spoiling yourself rotten with the excuse of Valentines Day and single life to slug at any one opposing you, is still very much just as enjoyable as celebrating it with a special someone. Maybe even more since you won’t have to share!
Now throughout the years I have gotten a tonne of messages asking me how to get “a perfect relationship like mine” and how Sean and I are pure “relationship goals”. So I thought that since Valentines Day is a celebration of love and romance across the world, that it would be appropriate to throw in my two cents when it comes to relationships and relationship advice.

Now mind you that these are just my personal thoughts on the matter and I am speaking in broad general terms. Everyone is different so don’t read this thinking that if you follow all these steps it’ll all magically work out. I would also like to remind you that what you see of Sean and mine’s relationship is what we choose to show you. No one is perfect and everyone will have disagreements once in a while, so of course we do to. It’s just part of being human! So with that out of the way, let’s take a look at my top five tips to  help maintain a healthy relationship.



Honesty. You’ve heard this one a thousand times over but it is really the only way to go. Honesty is the foundation of most things in life so it goes without saying that it should be at the core of every healthy relationship. I think if you can be honest with each other, admit fault when you see it then there is not much standing in the way for you!

Communication, is probably the most important one on my list. If you can’t communicate effectively then there is no hope in hell that it’ll ever work out for you both. Practicing talking to each other about your thoughts and problems will help you both in the long run. I know it can be very difficult but it is such an essential part of being close to someone. There is just no way around it. If you don’t communicate then you will never know where you both stand when issues arise. Now I’m not saying that you should bring up every little thing that pops up! Sometimes you yourself need to take a step back and reevaluate if the issue is actually worth bringing up. Maybe you can tackle it alone? Work on yourself and your communicative skills and work on figuring out what’s worth bringing up and what’s not.

Compromise. You’ve heard this one a thousand times as well but that’s only because it’s true. Compromise is a big part of life especially if you are sharing that life with another person. You simply can’t have your way ALL THE TIME but knowing when to make sacrifices and when to stand your ground is key!

Independence. Now this one is so SO important too! Once you fall in love you’ll want to spend all of your time together but remember that most people need space to just be themselves. You need to be able to let go off those bitter emotions when they don’t text back within 30 second. No one is required to spend all their time with each other so don’t expect them to either. Go do stuff that you enjoy by yourself and love that alone time! It’s good to be just you once in a while, that way you can learn to live with just yourself.

Have fun! Life is all about experiences and relationships are a definite part of that. They are a shared experience and if it doesn’t work out it’s not the end of the world. You may have to do some things different next time but don’t spend your time worrying about what could or could not happen and just enjoy the ride. Enjoy the people who you are with and treasure your memories with them because they will be with you forever. So just have fun!


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32 thoughts on “Valentines Day Special: Five Tips To Help Maintain A Healthy Relationship

  1. Ok yeah I’m super late, but I was looking around and I just found your blog.

    I wanted to say that while I agree with most of these, for me and my boyfriend, compromise is *not* an option. The reasons why might seem a little nitpicky to some, but I really think that there is a need to be precise.

    I think that to truly love someone, you must help them be as lovable to you as possible. Because there are some things we just can’t stand, that make us feel hurt and desperate even though we know it’s coming from a good place. There are things that we give out of good intentions, but they leave us with a deep impression of sacrifice which eventually resolves itself in ugly ways, leaving us with feelings of bitterness, resentment and unfairness.

    Therefore, we don’t do sacrifice, and we don’t do compromise. To us, it’s win-win or no deal. We don’t do things that make us feel like the other person owes us something, we do only those things that we can do for the joy it brings to us. Each time we compromise, we lose a chance to synergize; and every time we sacrifice, we lose a chance to share. Compromise and sacrifice are substractive actions. Instead, we use communication to resolve situations in a way that makes us both feel like we gained something.

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  2. Im in a 3 year old relationship that people deem ad “relationship goals” too and I can’t tell you how true these points are! Especially the “honesty” one. I’m now “allowed” to girl code my boyfriend since in his eyes I would be lying if I say everything is fine when it’s not and it has saved us so much problem. It was hard in the beginning to always talk straight but it’s so liberating. And independence!!! We have never been the “see each other every second of the day” kind of couple and I think it has helped us both to grow. You appreciate each other more too! Thanks for this blog post, I’m sorry my comment became so long!


  3. You and Sean have such an amazing relationship (of what you choose to show of course) but do you have any adivce for relationships that are long distance? Boyfriend is deploying for a year. Just wondering if you have any tips!!

    Wade gave me some amazing stories about how Molly would leave notes around the house about small things; and Tyler gave me great advice too. Always stay positive; and focus on the good memories while making good ones.

    Just want your opinion too. Thank you so much 🙂


  4. Been with my guy for 5 years, since I was 16 years old! Communication is definitely something I have found that we have problems with, specifically because we are long-distance.

    I loved this blog, because it was nice to see a bit into your relationship, and it had some good advice.

    Something you said that I’m always trying to remind myself, is that I need to learn how to deal with the small things on my own, especially those dumb little annoyances!

    Happy Valentine’s Day to the two of you!!
    (though i guess it’s already over there, oh well)

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  5. This was so nice to read and you got all the important points made. Being wih my boyfriend for 3 years I always need stuff like this to help me ensure the great relationship I have is maintained. He helps me with communication and conpromise, the rest we have down well and I’m happy to have him as my little confidence booster. I always appreciate all your advice and blogs Signe so much its always a pleasure to read. So happy you and Sean are happy together and hope you enjoyed a fantastic Valentines Day. 🙂

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  6. Having been single my entire life, I have no clue what it means to be involved in a romantic relationship. It’s intimidating in so many ways, but I can say it’s something I could look forward to if life permits. Your statement of advice isn’t at all annoying, if anything I find that it solidifies the truth in what establishes a strong and healthy relationship. Happy Valentine’s Day to you both. I have to go say happy birthday to like three people, lol. I hope you two continue to celebrate and cherish your love. Best wiishes! ^^ ❤

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  7. happy valentine’s to you and Sean…though i know it nearly over in your timezone…thankies for this…i’ve tried to point these out to past long distance guys i was dated in the past before but they never got the “independence” one especially…they never understood how i would get so upset after the constant having to spend time with them…however, it does go the other way when in relationships i’ve had with guys who live in my area that would only see me once a week then call me every other day for a bit…they thought that was a o-kay but it wasn’t…of course being raised the way i was then i never knew how to communicate right to men…i tell how i feel and usually it goes either way…it seriously does takes learning and space to not talking about all your inner stuff in your mind to really make a relationship work


  8. It’s nice seeing a young relationship, your points are spot on! You see I am 53 but my love is 72 and now disabled and nearly deaf. Our relationship is strong but compromise is at the top of the list, mostly mine. I now do more nursing and babysitting and constant cleaning. The moments we have a giggle is priceless, it’s what makes it work! He doesn’t understand the whole you tube thing so I watch after he has gone to bed, I put western movies on for him. He did take me out for lunch on Saturday and today he gave me a card and flowers. I will love him forever!

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  9. Nice blog post, but one thing I’d like to point out is that February the 14th was not “nicknamed” by people as Valentine’s Day. It’s literally a Saint’s day, specifically Saint Valentine’s. Common knowledge lol


  10. Kinda unrelated: have you done the “enneagram personality test”? I’m not usually a fan of personality tests, but this one was weirdly accurate and it gives you a lot of information from which you can learn where you might want to improve. I’m a typical type 5, I was wondering what you and Sean are. Hope you had a great day ( ˘ ³˘)❤


  11. My parents have been together for over 30 years and their advice has always been the same things. I myself have never been in a relationship, but I have watched my friends go through their’s and as an observer, it’s important to remind your friends of these things as well. I’m so happy for you and Sean and I wish you both the best! Happy Valentine’s Day!

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  12. This post was so beautiful and actually brought out a few tears. I agree wholeheartedly with every one of your tips, and that’s probably why. May you and Sean’s relationship only continue to get better as time passes – and keep up the quality blogging! x


  13. Aww that’s very great advice and I hope you and Sean are having a wonderful day and that you both have fun love you both so much 💚


  14. Communcation to me has always been the very core of a relationship indeed, it’s so important to just let the other person know what’s going on. I agree with all of these points, I think I’ve had these keywords as a sort of guide in my head since forever so it’s nice to read that you’re experiencing the same thing!
    It’s so sweet to see you guys happy and enjoying each other’s company so much aswell, it’s heartwarming and I wish you many many more years of happiness to come!
    Keep up the great blog posts!

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  15. These tips are so incredibly important, I struggle with a lot of these so this was a nice reminder to stay on the right track!
    Also those are some absolutely gorgeous photos of you and Seán! You guys are such cuties! 😩❤️


  16. I totally agree with all of your points! These are all essential in a relationship! Something I would add though is tolerance! There’s most likely going to something about your partner that you don’t like, and you won’t be able to change that. So, you just have to tolerate that thing about them because you accept them and love them despite that thing that annoys you! 🙂


  17. this is such a sweet post! also, i love these photos, you guys look SO happy together 🙂
    also, quick question; how was it transitioning from an online relationship to a “irl” relationship? did it effect your dynamic at all?

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  18. These tips are so important to remember! I know how easy it can be to forget these sometimes, especially about being independent. Also, beautiful pictures of you and Sean! 🙂


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